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I am to blame for the breakup of my first marriage.
And I am still trying to make up for it
I am to blame for the breakup of my first marriage.
I didn’t communicate well with my wife and I didn’t insist on her communicating either.
I didn’t ensure that we maintained a loving relationship, where we cared for and looked out for each other.
I didn’t give her the attention she needed.
I was selfish and focused on myself and my needs.
I couldn’t see further ahead than the next thing on our horizon, which meant I didn’t see the bigger picture.
I mentally switched off from our relationship a long time before we separated.
I didn’t speak to anyone about the problems that we faced and didn’t seek advice.
I didn’t express my concerns to her enough so that we could work through them together.
I didn’t help her enough deal with the challenges she was facing.
HOWEVER …
I wasn’t alone in my marriage.
Every one of the things I am guilty of, she was guilty of too.
That’s why we failed.
